Komunikasi dgn bakal suami/communicatio wt grooms to be

...english version below. Tnanks :)

Situasi pertama yang sudah ada bakal jodoh.
Kawan saya selalu bertanya mcm mana la dengan bakal suaminya ini, bila di tanya tentang kahwin, jawapannya tanya Tuhan, asyik2 sama ja jawapannya.

Jadi saya cerita tentang kawan saya yang lama berkawan dengan bakal suaminya yang sangat mengambil berat tentangnya, weekend keluar bersama-sama membeli barang keperluan rumah masing-masing. Kawan saya kematian ibu, memang rasa beruntung ada bakal suami menemaninya kemana sahaja. Tapi bakal suami ini tidak pernah ajak kawin atau bercakap tentang kahwin, bila ditanya jawapannya Tanya tuhan ada sebut pasal kos tinggi lagi bila kahwin) Kawan saya pula menasihati si bakal suami tu macam makcik2 untuk masa depan si bakal suami dimana ini salah. (Sila jadi bakal isteri yang manja..bekelakuan baik supaya diikuti tanpa berhujah untuk memberi peluang si bakal suami menjadi lelaki yang gentleman)

Jadi nasihat saya padanya...bila bakal suami call, cakap "nak keluar tapi ahli keluarga datang atau ada hal, roomate minta tolong...
Bila bakal suami pelawa nak jemput dari pejabat dan hantar ke rumah singgah minum makan (bestkan?;) tapi cakap bestnya tapi ada hal keluarga...(hal diri sendiri pun hal keluarga atau hal personal pun) mesti bagi sebab nak keluar tapi tak boleh dengan "sebab" diberi bersama...biar dia nampak message yang kita sampaikan "mahu tapi tak boleh" "suka keluar dengan dia tapi ada hal keluarga" penting beritahu yang kita mahu dekat bakal suami (direct), seronok dengan bakal suami beritahu dalam telefon saja :) mesti bagi sebab nanti dia ingat kita elakkan dia.

Saya juga suggest pada kawan supaya biasakan bersama keluarga. Telefon biar "on" untuk bakal suami call. Sebab kawan tinggal bujang...jadi biar bakal suami tahu walaupun tinggal bujang tapi masih ambil peluang untuk bersama keluarga. Dan sekali-sekala cakap "mahu kahwin bukan jom kahwin atau bila nak kahwin)

Jadi kawan saya buat aktiviti dengan keluarga, bawa bapanya yang kematian isteri bersiar-siar di hujung minggu tapi bagitau bakal suami seronok lagi keluar dengan dia tapi tak boleh. Dari situ, bakal suaminya ajak kawin sebab kawan saya sememangnya mahu ...sebab berkawan dengan berhasrat hendak kahwin tapi susah jumpa...Alhamdulillah...dah ada anak satu dah ...

moral cerita - bakal suaminya tinggal dengan family, bila groceries ada orang teman rasa tak sunyikan...balik rumah ada keluarga adik semua...tak terasa perlu kahwin tapi bila tiada kawan lepas kerja, tiada kawan makan kat luar..balik seorang diri dalam kereta ( barulah dia fikir perlu kahwin)

Desire, direct, destiny.
with love,
Baby

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First situation of a friend who already has the future husband

My friend told me that her future husband refused to speak about marriage, when she asked him about marriage, he would answer "ask God". as if he didnt want her to get frustrated.

Im going to share more about a friend of mine who has a future husband who is caring, company her wherever and even doing groceries together for each of their homes. Her mom died and her dad lives alone outskirt of the city. For having a future husband to company her is more than grateful. Obviously the future husband has no intention to get married as when asked the same answer came out "ask God" sometime mention marriage is costly'. This makes my friend to advice him like elderly aunties which is not right (Please be a romantic future wife, act nicely to be followed without words).

My advice to her, when the future husband call and ask out, excitedly answer, I want but I can't because family matter or personal matter, mention reason is good.

When the future husband offers to pick-up and send you home, and stop for dining sounds nice right but say, wow i want but I can't my relatives something.. it is important to convey the message that you want but you can not because you have something came up. Tell him that you enjoy going out with him but you can't go out with him because your relatives come or you need to work for family, please tell the reason so that he didnt think he is avoided. (once in the while mention that you want to get married not say lets get married or when are we getting married but I want to get married).

So my friend made activities with her dad in the weekends, but tell the future husband it is more fun to go out with him but she cant...so now they have a kid already..Alhamdulillah.

moral of the story - the future husband lives with family, so at home he will never feel lonely but to do groceries alone is not nice, going back home alone and no one to have dinner out with, makes  hime feel the need to get married with the one who cares for him.


mahu, mohon, makbul,
salam sayang,
babY


Harap kawan2 yang disayangi, boleh berkongsi bagaimana hendak berkenalan dengan bakal suami :) Saya rasa saya boleh kongsi untuk post akan datang :)

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Nak kawin/wanna get married

English version below



Selepas khatam Al-Quran beberapa kali bolehlah kahwin. Seelok-eloknya zaman sekarang lepas degree dah kerja,  register tabung haji. Lega nak fikirkan tentang kahwin.

Saya sangat bersyukur kerana kawan perempuan saya sendiri yang ingatkan saya supaya fokus bila nak kahwin. Memberi kesedaran untuk saya betul-betul hendak berkawin. Jadi dari situ saya selalu keluar ayat "dah nak kawin" mcm tu ja . Dalam hati saya fikirkan tentang lelaki yg terbaik. Lelaki yg terbaik lelaki yang sy sayang itu yang penting. Seingat saya mcm tu ja. Fikir dan doa..bagitau ibu, pastu ibu kata biar Allah aturkan.

Dalam hati saya fokus "macam dah kawin, pergi kerja pagi2, ibu check minyak hitam semua walaupun kereta baru. Then saya off radio and zikir. Dalam fikiran. Bayang dah kahwin hehe. Bila dapat call dari kawan lelaki/kawan perempuan ajak keluar saya cakap saya sibuk saya mcm dah kawin hehe...

Dari situ la saya bertemu suami .bila dia ajak keluar saya cakap saya nak keluar dgn dia tapi saya tak boleh  tapi nak sgt. Jadi suami cari solusi utk kawin. Alhamdulillah...kalau tidak ibu la masih check minyak hitam lagi agaknya... :) ibu pun tak layan kawan2 lelaki yg sy cerita kalau yg nak datang merisik baru dia buat-buat dengar :) Dia tak nak bersubahat. Jadi kami terus akad nikah.

Love,liase,lasts

After reciting Al-Quran. By right after degree, ss well register for haj. Then its fun to think of marriage.

Im grateful hving a girlfriend who reminded to focus on marriage when i really want it. Gives me awareness to focus and tell people know that i am getting married eventhough the person is in my imagination. The best husband that i love. When told my mom, she said all in Allah's hand.

In my heart i feel already married. Going to work in the morning after mom check the engine oil though its a new car. I drive with radio off so that i can cite prayers a bit. When girlfriends or boyfriends call i said im busy as if im married hehe.

From there i have met my beloved husband. When he asked me out i said i want but i cant hehe... he find the solution to meet my family by asking me to get married hehe..mom ignore about guys unless for marriage as she didnt want to get involved. So we get married.

Cinta,cakap,capai
Salam sayang dari,
babY

PHOTO : my son with his furry friend

Hair care/Jom jaga rambut

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Saya lebihkan senam tunduk kepala ke bawah supaya darah mengalir lebih ke kepala dgn posisi ini. Rambut lebih sihat. Berdiri tegak, nafas, angkat kiri separuh bersila, tangan kiri berpusing dari blakang. Perlahan2 bongkokkan badan. Tangan kanan menapak di lantai, bernafas 5x. Untuk saya memikirkan ttg senam adalah anugerah  yg dipinjam yg perlu disyukuri. Tips: sebelum memakai tudung, sikat rambut belah tepi atau tengah, letak pin rambut. Ikat rambut dari bawah dgn pin yg ada net sanggul. Gulung dan pusing rambut masuk dlm net. Pasti anda dapat rambut cantik bila buka tudung.lurus dari atas beralun dibawah dan bekas ikatan pun tak ada..

I love doing foward band. As the blood tend to flow more to the head. And relax the neck. Stand upright..bring left leg bend to half lotus, grab toe with right hand from behind. Bend down, stay in the position with 5x breathing. For me working out on our body is showing gratefulness as its a gift that we care the most. Tips : before wearing veil. Comb hair, give side spilt or middle, pin hai. Tie hair low with hair pin that has net below. Twist n fold hair inside the net. For sure after the veil is opened. The hair flow straight from top but slightly curl down. Good thing theres no obvious tie shape left.

With love,
babY

Lawak ibu/mom's joke

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Ibu saya cerita masa dia belasan tahun dahulu, dia pergi tengok wayang. Satu masa tu dia terpaksa bawa adiknya iaitu maksu saya yang masih kecil. Bila pulang ke rumah dari panggung. Ibu pesan pada adiknya jangan beritahu abah dan mak iaitu abahwan dan maktok saya. Bila masuk rumah, maksu saya diam tapi sekian lama bersuara  "hari ini siapa pun tak tengok wayang :)"

My mom told me a story in her teenagers days. Its about she wanted  to watch movie but she had to bring her sister along. So in the way home after the movie she told her sister not to tell anyone about they watched movie. After they enter the house, her sister was quiet but voice out " nobody watched movie today :)".

with love,
BabY

Jom angkat berat/ lets weight lifting

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Saya rasa tangan saya lebih kuat dgn cubaan mengangkat berat badan sendiri. Duduk bersila, letak tangan kanan blakang lutut. Tangan kiri disebelah peha. Untuk meringankan berat, kaki kiri tumpang atas kaki kanan. Bernafas pjg, dua belah tapak tangan  menapak di atas lantai, siku dibengkokkan dan lurus mengangkat seluruh badan. Otot perut mengempis dan menarik keatas. Bernafas dgn tenang.

I feel my hands are stronger after tryinh to lift my own body weight. I sat down in lotus pose, slightly raise right leg towards the side. It gives space for my right hand against back of my knee. Left hand besides the thigh. To lighten the weight put the left feet on the right feet near the ankle. Breath in, palms on and grip the earth. Elbow bended a bit and abruptly straighten to lift the whole body. Stomach muscle in and pull up. Breath calmly

Awareness , alert, alter,
sayang,
BabY