Fix yourself/ baiki diri

english version below

Assalamualaikum kawan-kawan yang dikasihi,

Jika saya tidak di blog, biasanya saya di Facebook, saya memang mengikuti child expert coach. Cara yang penyayang mengatasi anak-anak kecil.

Dalam satu status postnya mengatakan bahawa "Jika anak takutkan air bukan kerana dia tiada konfiden tetapi kerana dia masih menganalisa keadaan dan masih memerhati untuk mencebur diri"

Jadi saya teringat bahawa masa saya kecil dalam 6 tahun macam tu, emak saya menari cha cha, saya rasa tiada konfiden untuk mencuba steps tu, mungkin rasa segan sama, tapi dalam hati terlintas "its ok, its not Islamic, takpa bukan cara Islam. Dalam komen saya bertanya pada child expert boleh ka budak2 berdalih semacam itu sekali. Sekarang saya bersenam, berdiri atas kepala, buat renggangan dari sebelah kaki, lompat dengan tangan saja, anak saya tengok dan meniru sekejap buat jatuh2, terlintas dalam hati apa yang anak saya fikirkan tentang saya pula.

fix, fast, form
salam sayang,
babY

Greetings to my dearest friends,

If  I am not here, usually I will be in Facebook, I follow child expert coach page- in loving way to handle kids.

In the status recently, it says " If the kid afraid of water,  not because he is not confident but because he is still doing analyst about the circumstances and observed to get involved"

It reminds me when I was little around 6 years old, my mom danced cha cha, I have no confidents to even try the steps, maybe I feel shy at the same time but crossed in my mind " its ok its not Islamic. So in my comment to ask if the child expert knows that is it ok to feel sour grapes and give reason to console oneself. Now I love doing physical practice, stand on my head, stretching with one leg, jump on hands. My kids saw and imitate doing the same, but drop himself purposely, in my heart wonders what my kid thinks of me this time.

baiki,boleh,baik
with love,
babY

Foto : dream of safari

Son's birthday/harijadi anak

English version below-

 

Foto dibawah adalah sambutan harijadi yg lepas2 dimana bulan ini bulan harijadi hero saya, masih berfikir nak buat kek macam mana. Tapi saya ingat nak atur strawberri dgn anggur hitam atau chocolate atas whip cream dan nak jadikan bentuk ladybug, bole ke?  Idea untuk menggalakkan kawan2 dia dan dia makan buah ;) Di jemput tengok hero sedang menonton sambil mengikut :)

 

 

The photos of the previous celebrations. As this month is the birthday month of my hero. Still thinking of cake to make. Maybe would try to fill strawberries and grapes into ladybug shape on whip cream, do you think possible? The idea is to encourage his young friends and him as well to eat fruits ;)

 

hi-5-No.1

 

 

lovely thots and prayers

babY

Mahu punyai Anak/ Want to hv children

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Menatap foto ni mengingatkan saya pada suatu ketika dulu inginkan anak. Sekarang dah beranak-pinak, sangat bersyukur dengan kehadiran mereka.

Saya benar2 berdoa kpdNya berikan saya anak, saya sebut hanya Allah tempat saya meminta hanya Tuhan yang boleh beri apa yang saya minta. *dalam sujud*

Sedihnya saya hampir terlupa utk amalkan kerana terlalu sibuk sekarang

Amalan itu ialah tegur baby2 dan budak2 yang saya terserempak, tak akan terlepas pandang, hargai mereka, memberi pujian dengan senyuman pada mereka. Dalam hati meminta mereka doakan untuk saya. Sebenarnya saya memang meminta tolong dari anak yatim untuk mendoakan saya.

Harus, hargai, hasrat

Salam sayang,
babY

Looking at the photo below reminds me of how i wanted children so much that i own now.

I really pray to Allah that I want kids and only Him can give only Him I ask from. (In prostration)

But sadly i almost forgot to practice that i show interests in all babies n kids iv come acrossed, never missed a glance. Appreciate them, adore them with kind words in my heart i wanted them to pray for me. Infact, i even asked an orphan to pray for me.

Want,wish,wonders
With love,
babY

Photo : gift of love

berteman / companion

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Dulu jantung saya senang berdebar disebabkan gementar keterlaluan bila berseorangan. Ibu la yg beritahu bahawa bacaan di machine bp nya menunjukan pulse rate high. Jadi ibu kata kena relax kerana jantung berdebar cepat sng menjadi lemah masa akan datang nauzubilahiminzaligh.

Jadi saya selalu bertanya rakan sekerja sis2 atau jiran untuk menumpang mereka ke tempat keja. Solusi sy tumpangkan kawan yg lintas jln  dari stesen lrt ke tempat keja, terus sy cakap dgn dia sy akan lalu lg waktu yg sama esok. Saya tidak gementar lagi bila diteman rakan sekerja terutama di kawasan tempat letak kereta. Waktu lunch pun sy memastikan sy pergi beramai2 walaupun tak makan sekali. 

Lepas kerja untuk relax juga ialah dengan senaman rengangan dengan kesedaran (breathing awareness) pergerakkan bersama pernafasan. Contoh bila angkat tangan tarik nafas, bila bergerak turun tangan perlahan dgn lepas nafas perlahan.

Boleh cuba ni, Tutup mulut, senyum tanpa nampak gigi dan nafas perlahan rasa sgt tenang, lebih2 lagi dengan posisi yg bahu  membuka ke belakang,tulang belakang berlawan dgn membongkok mmg sgt nyaman seperti foto dibawah. Dgn senaman ini bacaan di blood pressure machine menunjukkan saya seorang sportman/Athlete sekarang Alhamdulillah.

Tanya, tumpang, teman

Senam,syukur,sempurna
With love,
babY

Before this my heart beats fast i figure because i get nervous when i have to do things alone. I get solution by asking females colleague to give them a lift to work. So i found a friend crossing the road and abruptly i stop and make appoint the next day i pick her up. I become more relax as i hv her at the parking lot. For lunch time to the food court also i flock together in gruops though not on a same table.

After work i practice stretching and breathing awareness with movements. For instant when raise hands breathe in while lowering hands breathe out slowly.

You can try this: mouth closed, smile without showing teeth, breathe slowly.feeling at ease especially shoulder to the back , chest forward, spine in bridge position like photo below. With many kind position with slow breathing slower the heartbeats. Now the reading shows as if i am sportman/athlete. Alhamdulillah.

Posture, practice, perfect,
With love,
babY

Komunikasi dgn bakal suami/communicatio wt grooms to be

...english version below. Tnanks :)

Situasi pertama yang sudah ada bakal jodoh.
Kawan saya selalu bertanya mcm mana la dengan bakal suaminya ini, bila di tanya tentang kahwin, jawapannya tanya Tuhan, asyik2 sama ja jawapannya.

Jadi saya cerita tentang kawan saya yang lama berkawan dengan bakal suaminya yang sangat mengambil berat tentangnya, weekend keluar bersama-sama membeli barang keperluan rumah masing-masing. Kawan saya kematian ibu, memang rasa beruntung ada bakal suami menemaninya kemana sahaja. Tapi bakal suami ini tidak pernah ajak kawin atau bercakap tentang kahwin, bila ditanya jawapannya Tanya tuhan ada sebut pasal kos tinggi lagi bila kahwin) Kawan saya pula menasihati si bakal suami tu macam makcik2 untuk masa depan si bakal suami dimana ini salah. (Sila jadi bakal isteri yang manja..bekelakuan baik supaya diikuti tanpa berhujah untuk memberi peluang si bakal suami menjadi lelaki yang gentleman)

Jadi nasihat saya padanya...bila bakal suami call, cakap "nak keluar tapi ahli keluarga datang atau ada hal, roomate minta tolong...
Bila bakal suami pelawa nak jemput dari pejabat dan hantar ke rumah singgah minum makan (bestkan?;) tapi cakap bestnya tapi ada hal keluarga...(hal diri sendiri pun hal keluarga atau hal personal pun) mesti bagi sebab nak keluar tapi tak boleh dengan "sebab" diberi bersama...biar dia nampak message yang kita sampaikan "mahu tapi tak boleh" "suka keluar dengan dia tapi ada hal keluarga" penting beritahu yang kita mahu dekat bakal suami (direct), seronok dengan bakal suami beritahu dalam telefon saja :) mesti bagi sebab nanti dia ingat kita elakkan dia.

Saya juga suggest pada kawan supaya biasakan bersama keluarga. Telefon biar "on" untuk bakal suami call. Sebab kawan tinggal bujang...jadi biar bakal suami tahu walaupun tinggal bujang tapi masih ambil peluang untuk bersama keluarga. Dan sekali-sekala cakap "mahu kahwin bukan jom kahwin atau bila nak kahwin)

Jadi kawan saya buat aktiviti dengan keluarga, bawa bapanya yang kematian isteri bersiar-siar di hujung minggu tapi bagitau bakal suami seronok lagi keluar dengan dia tapi tak boleh. Dari situ, bakal suaminya ajak kawin sebab kawan saya sememangnya mahu ...sebab berkawan dengan berhasrat hendak kahwin tapi susah jumpa...Alhamdulillah...dah ada anak satu dah ...

moral cerita - bakal suaminya tinggal dengan family, bila groceries ada orang teman rasa tak sunyikan...balik rumah ada keluarga adik semua...tak terasa perlu kahwin tapi bila tiada kawan lepas kerja, tiada kawan makan kat luar..balik seorang diri dalam kereta ( barulah dia fikir perlu kahwin)

Desire, direct, destiny.
with love,
Baby

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First situation of a friend who already has the future husband

My friend told me that her future husband refused to speak about marriage, when she asked him about marriage, he would answer "ask God". as if he didnt want her to get frustrated.

Im going to share more about a friend of mine who has a future husband who is caring, company her wherever and even doing groceries together for each of their homes. Her mom died and her dad lives alone outskirt of the city. For having a future husband to company her is more than grateful. Obviously the future husband has no intention to get married as when asked the same answer came out "ask God" sometime mention marriage is costly'. This makes my friend to advice him like elderly aunties which is not right (Please be a romantic future wife, act nicely to be followed without words).

My advice to her, when the future husband call and ask out, excitedly answer, I want but I can't because family matter or personal matter, mention reason is good.

When the future husband offers to pick-up and send you home, and stop for dining sounds nice right but say, wow i want but I can't my relatives something.. it is important to convey the message that you want but you can not because you have something came up. Tell him that you enjoy going out with him but you can't go out with him because your relatives come or you need to work for family, please tell the reason so that he didnt think he is avoided. (once in the while mention that you want to get married not say lets get married or when are we getting married but I want to get married).

So my friend made activities with her dad in the weekends, but tell the future husband it is more fun to go out with him but she cant...so now they have a kid already..Alhamdulillah.

moral of the story - the future husband lives with family, so at home he will never feel lonely but to do groceries alone is not nice, going back home alone and no one to have dinner out with, makes  hime feel the need to get married with the one who cares for him.


mahu, mohon, makbul,
salam sayang,
babY


Harap kawan2 yang disayangi, boleh berkongsi bagaimana hendak berkenalan dengan bakal suami :) Saya rasa saya boleh kongsi untuk post akan datang :)

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